How can someone cheat on their spouse if they love them?

I do truly believe that it is possible for a person to love two people at the same time, romantically. I think a man can love his wife and his mistress, and the same for a woman. But what I don't understand is, IF a person loves their spouse, how can they cheat on them? Cheating is the ultimate betrayal, right? Knowing how much it would hurt their spouse, how can they this to them behind their back? Especially if it's just a matter of not getting enough sex. Honest answers please, I want to try to understand this.

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sex and love are two completely different things

They might think they love their spouse, but they obviously don't really love them if they're cheating. If you truly love your spouse, you don't cheat. Lack of sex is no excuse, if you're not getting enough sex (not you, personally, just generally) then communicate with your spouse and tell him/her about how they're not satisfying you. I would never cheat on my boyfriend, and he would never cheat on me, because we truly love each other and satisfy each other.

Cheating is the ultimate betrayal and I don't believe people can love 2 people at the same time.

It's all about opportunity, a willing participant for your fantasy. It takes you out of the reality of your life. That's how it starts and why it starts in some cases.

Boredom, stress or arguments in marriage often leads people to seek that "spark" feeling from others. Thus, that is cheating.

To combat cheating and maintain a strong relationship, I hate to say this but keep having sex with your spouse. You will soon realize that the chemicals in brain (burst of dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, and more) leads to stronger connections between the 2. If you find this offensive, you shouldn't be married.