I cant get over my ex?

Best answer: This is what always happens when people run from their problems. Until you go back and face them head on, all will suffer. You said it yourself- Things got in the way. So now the two of you keep teeter tottering around- Back and forth. Toying with the idea- Should we try again or will we get hurt? Should I stay with someone that I will never fully love, or cut my losses and maybe not find another?

My personal advice is to take a long break from the current lady. See if your ex will get into counseling with you. If not, go yourself. The counseling is not so much to get back together, but to work through all the unresolved issues. If you end up getting back together, fine. But for the most part, it will give you both a peaceful closure so that you can move on. Note, this needs to be done without either of you seeing other people during this process. It normally runs for an average of 90 days to get the full benefits- Sometimes longer.

Staying with someone you care about when you still have much stronger feelings for another, is cheating all of you. It is especially unfair to the newcomer, and will eventually cause problems later down the road- All which could be avoided if you take the time needed to do things right. Never get serious with someone when your heart is still somewhere else. Take the needed time to be on your own- As much as you need. So many start dating with no intentions of getting serious when that's exactly what ends up happening- Simply because they don't want to be alone or think it will help them forget- Then you have yourself, one big mess.

I know it's not going to be easy, but you need to be honest with the girl you're with now. She may get angry and try to stop you- But if she is worth having, she will be understanding and eventually if /when you are ready, you'll reconnect later- Only this time you will be able to give her, all of you. You can't run from your heart or your troubles. They will forever chase you down and haunt you wherever you go. Face and work through them, and you will be whole. Best of luck.

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You need to talk with a therapist.

The general rule of thumb is: If someone has not COMPLETELY gotten over their ex within 6 months, they aren't going to figure it out unless they get some help from a therapist. This is called having an "Adjustment Disorder" . .which means they are not able to adjust to a loss/change, and need some help to learn HOW to adjust.

This is what always happens when people run from their problems. Until you go back and face them head on, all will suffer. You said it yourself- Things got in the way. So now the two of you keep teeter tottering around- Back and forth. Toying with the idea- Should we try again or will we get hurt? Should I stay with someone that I will never fully love, or cut my losses and maybe not find another?

My personal advice is to take a long break from the current lady. See if your ex will get into counseling with you. If not, go yourself. The counseling is not so much to get back together, but to work through all the unresolved issues. If you end up getting back together, fine. But for the most part, it will give you both a peaceful closure so that you can move on. Note, this needs to be done without either of you seeing other people during this process. It normally runs for an average of 90 days to get the full benefits- Sometimes longer.

Staying with someone you care about when you still have much stronger feelings for another, is cheating all of you. It is especially unfair to the newcomer, and will eventually cause problems later down the road- All which could be avoided if you take the time needed to do things right. Never get serious with someone when your heart is still somewhere else. Take the needed time to be on your own- As much as you need. So many start dating with no intentions of getting serious when that's exactly what ends up happening- Simply because they don't want to be alone or think it will help them forget- Then you have yourself, one big mess.

I know it's not going to be easy, but you need to be honest with the girl you're with now. She may get angry and try to stop you- But if she is worth having, she will be understanding and eventually if /when you are ready, you'll reconnect later- Only this time you will be able to give her, all of you. You can't run from your heart or your troubles. They will forever chase you down and haunt you wherever you go. Face and work through them, and you will be whole. Best of luck.

U need to get laid

Dang, I know this sounds bad, but dude you're going to have to move on